Friends Along the Road – FAR – is a free, open-source social movement that provides sanctuary and caring support for those grieving the deaths of family members and friends, and grieving from other causes, so that they may have time and safe places in order to rest, seek consolation or healing, and possibly reevaluate their lives.
FAR also teaches how to create Sanctuary Anywhere. By being present and accessible to someone in grief, you might be able to extend life and hope. One of the greatest things we can do for one another is provide sanctuary wherever we are. At work, at school, in the grocery, in church, in a park, in a restaurant, in prison: sanctuaries can be created in all these places and many more.
David and Judy Pierce, of Colorado, created Friends Along the Road after the death of Lilli, their only child and best friend. With Lilli gone, Dave and Judy no longer wanted to live. Nevertheless, they managed to hang on. In May of 2000 they quit their jobs and embarked on a two-year journey through the back roads of the U.S. and Canada to see if they could find reasons to keep living. After visiting with family members, meeting many friends old and new, and doing much soul-searching, Dave and Judy came to realize that they had learned a few things about grief. Knowing that everybody dies, and that all us suffer the loss of loved ones, the couple finally found something worth living for: helping others in deep grief. The story of their journey is chronicled in David’s book, “Looking for Lilli: Living With the Death of Our Only Child.”
In 2002, Dave and Judy embraced the philosophy of Sanctuary and Caring Support. Finding that there are many misconceptions about grieving, they came to understand that grief is an entirely personal experience, and that no one has the right to suggest how another ought to experience it. However, they were encouraged by wonderful professional counseling organizations and healing networks that adhere to the ideas of safety, comfort, and unconditional positive regard. Dave and Judy realized that sometimes, the best thing one can do for a person in grief is to offer safe and comfortable places: sanctuaries for those in grief. That’s why they created Friends Along the Road: to make such places available, to be able to recommend similar places created by others, and to teach the art of Sanctuary Anywhere for Those in Grief.
Please read our FAR Values and Vision statement at www.friendsalongtheroad.org/values-vision.htm. By following these principles, YOU become, by default, a FAR Sanctuary for Those in Grief. www.friendsalongtheroad.org